Why do we let other people’s words affect us? Why do we let their feelings affect us? Even if words aren’t intended for us, we let them bother us. We let other people’s difficult words creep into our thoughts. We let other people’s issues create negative thoughts.
Words, when used properly, can be so uplifting. They can change our attitude from negative to positive. They can turn a bad day into a good day. Or worse, turn a good day into a bad day. Why is that? Why do we let other’s affect our attitude and ruin our day?
Society has said it’s ok to put everything on others. We put so much weight, thought, and acceptance in what other’s think. We let them dictate our days and in turn, life. We let them decide if we are worthy of a clothing style, job, and even friendship. We long for approval from others. If we do something good at work, we want praise. If we do something nice for a friend, we want recognition. If we do something around the house, we want our spouse to thank us. If we change our hair style, we want people to compliment us. We rely on others to tell us that we look beautiful, are smart, and fit in.
Instead of being our own person, we want to be like others. We look up to others and try to mimic them. And at the end of the day, we want them to notice us. We want them to compliment us. Sometimes we even take on their mentality. We think what they think and be who they are. We are no longer our own person. We are someone waiting for the acceptance and carrying around the opinions of someone else.
Are you your own person? Do you let someone else dictate your life? Do you like who you are or are you searching for someone else to help you find the way?
I try not to let other people’s opinions affect me. I admit that sometimes I want my husband to verbally appreciate the work I do around the house. I do enjoy it when he notices that I’ve gotten my hair cut. Sometimes my vanity shows its ugly face and I look for acceptance from others. I don’t let this vanity rule my life. I am comfortable in my shoes and am the person I want to be. That person is ever-growing, but she’s headed in the right direction. I pride myself in being a level-headed person. I am someone who tries to set a good example for others. Regardless of how old we are, I’m a believer that everyone needs someone to set a good example. I try to be positive and treat others the way I want to be treated. I want to be the rational one. I don’t want my words to dictate a person’s being. I don’t want to be the one to bring them down. Words can be so hurtful and harsh. I don’t want my words to make a person feel less than they are. I don’t want my words to create pain. I want to be the positive light. I want to provide sunshine on a cloudy day.
Words can carry a lot of meanings. The 500 words on this page can be taken multiple ways. You can read them the way I thought them or you can read them the way your brain works. Either way is correct. Everyone sees things differently and that’s ok. In fact, it’s a good thing that we don’t all think alike. If we all thought alike, where would this world be?